Does this sound like you? You wake up in a great mood, you get ready for your day, and so far everything is smooth sailing. You go to put your shoes on – can’t find your shoes anywhere. After searching for eight minutes, you find them.
Back on track with your happy mood, you go to leave, and guess what – now you can’t find your keys. And, now you are officially late leaving the house. Another ten minutes of hunting and you finally find your keys. Not only are you late, but you are also frustrated.
Now that the frustration has set in, the IF ONLY thoughts begin. If only I had put my shoes back in my closet instead of taking them off when I went to lie down with my child at bedtime. If only I would just put my keys in the same spot every time instead of where ever they end up. If only I could get myself together so I don’t have to feel frustrated more often than not.
As you are having this conversation with yourself, you notice you need gas, so you pull in, get out your wallet to grab your debit card, only to remember your debit card is in your jeans pocket that you wore the other day. Could this day get any worse.
And to think, it all could have been avoided had you just put the stuff back where it belonged in the first place. It isn’t anyone other than you that you are mad at, but I bet everyone you come into contact with today will know you are not in a good mood.
Does any of this sound like a situation you have ever found yourself in? If you can relate, all I can say is I can understand. I, too, have been there. And, every now and again, I still have those days. The difference between those days now and those days before is the frequency.
And that is what I want for you. I want the frequency of those If only days to change. Instead of having them once a week, how would you like to have them only once every 6 months. I know that sounds a bit crazy, that there is no way in this world you could only have your If only days twice a year. And, you’re right, maybe twice a year is a little hard to conceive at first, but anything is better than having them once a week, right?
This is what I want you to do. Create a habit. And by creating this habit, you are going to Organize Your Way Out of Frustration. Does that sound familiar from my post about Creating 12 Habits For Becoming Better Organized. It is on the same line as that, however on a much smaller scale. Everyday, when you come home, there are three things you need to do to help you have a great start the following morning.
Create a home for your keys and purse
Creating a home for your keys and your purse will only take a couple minutes to create. The challenge will come with creating the habit to follow through with getting your keys and your purse to their home every day. If you are struggling with thinking of a place that would make a good home for them, here are some suggestions: on your night stand in your bedroom, in the cabinet in the kitchen, or maybe even a table by the door you go out of every morning. Where ever it is that you decide to use as their home make sure it makes sense to you.
Put your shoes away
Everyday, every. single. day. put your shoes away. If you have read the book The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up (This is an affiliate link, if you purchase this book through this link, I will be compensated a small amount by amazon). You know that she says you need to put your shoes back where they belong every night and thank your shoes for providing you a service that day. I agree with her, I believe that is part of being intentional in our lives. Instead of willy nilly kicking our shoes off at the front door, make it a conscience effort to put them back where they belong. You will thank yourself in the morning if you do this today.
Change your clothes
When you get home from your day, change your clothes and put what you wore in the dirty clothes basket. Do NOT put them on the back of the chair or hang over the treadmill. Put them where they belong right then. I have several reasons for this that I want to share with you.
- Your bedroom will look more tidy, giving you a calmer feeling every time you walk in your room. Your bedroom is supposed to be your resting place, having stuff all around makes it hard to rest.
- When you are taking off your clothes for the day, you are also removing jewelry, your watch, name badge (if you have to wear one), and anything else that might be part of what you put on and take off everyday. If you take them off at the same place everyday, guess what will be in the same place every morning when you go to get ready for your day. All your stuff.
- And lastly, another important reason to put your clothes away when you take them off is, your children. They are going to emulate everything you do. So, if you are going to throw your clothes on the floor or on a chair, guess what they, too, are going to do. We, as parents, must lead by example, not just with having a home for our clothes, our shoes, or even having a home for our other items, but in all areas of our life. We, as parents, must lead by example.
And there you have it! The top three things you must do every day when you get home to help you have a calmer morning tomorrow. Not too difficult, right? It is just a matter of making these things a habit.
I have another great post for you that includes 17 Organizing Experts. They share with us How to Organize When You are Too Overwhelmed to Start. It might just give you some more ideas for organizing.
This weekend let’s create a home for our keys and purse, let’s commit to putting our shoes back where they belong every single day, and let’s change our clothes right when we get home so everything makes it back to its home. And, if you would like to get further along in your organizing journey, buy the book The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up.
I would love to know how this works for you. Leave a comment below and let me know how often you have if only days and how you are going to fix that.